Anonymous asked: No, I disagree, I don't think they are 'breadcrumbs.' I think it's a step forward, for men to reach other men (and maybe even women who are unaware) about female issues. There are no other 'highly known' male feminist movements, and if men talking to other men about sexism and misogyny is what's going to make them understand, then I'll take it. The goal here is to reach awareness and educate others about feminism, not to see who's more 'the face' of feminism.
But why should there be an all male dominated feminist movement? What’s important about being a male feminist or feminist ally is LISTENING to other women’s experiences of oppression and misogyny and if you create a space only for men or you give only men a platform (which is what heforshe does) to speak about experiences that are not their own with ZERO women’s voices then you are just perpetuating the domination of women. It’s like having a trans movement made up entirely of cis people or a Black power movement of only white people. We don’t need more voices of the dominant group when oppressed voices are already so underrepresented. Also, a huge amount of women don’t identify as feminists as well and it’s just as important to try to reach out and include them.
The other issue a lot of people had with heforshe of course was that there was no mention of intersectionality and how that ties into gender inequality. The experiences of a white wealthy straight cis woman (Emma Watson for example, although I don’t know what she identifies as in regards to orientation) are going to look very different from the experiences of a woman who is poor or lesbian or transgender or a person of color. By not acknowledging these intersecting identities you are both alienating entire groups of even more marginalized women and ignoring the power structures that perpetuate different types of oppression.
I’ve never been certain whether the moral of the Icarus story should only be, as is generally accepted, ‘don’t try to fly too high,’ or whether it might also be thought of as ‘forget the wax and feathers, and do a better job on the wings.’
i refuse to proofread this so sry for any mistakes
Always having lived life with the notion that I MUST finish any type of work that I’m assigned, fully, totally, perfectly, and without getting distracted or EVER wasting time has successfully crafted me into being a person who simply cannot tell when they are stressed. The effects of stress have become so normalized to me that I don’t know I’m on edge and spiraling downward until I’ve already smashed myself from the impact. It has taken…years, years, nearly two decades, for me to identify this, and this wasn’t even by myself. In hindsight, I can see all of the little things from my childhood that pushed me into this being. It’s so frustrating. Cycles are hard to break out of.
There’s a quote on here that says the harsh reality is that this stuff isn’t cured. You gotta learn how to manage it. It’ll always be there inside of you waiting to flare up when you aren’t as strong that ONE day, that one moment. That’s also frustrating.
We want big boob…. not too big, gross
we like small perky boob… not too little, gross
no don’t get fake ones!!!! gross!
oh your boobs are just like…hanging there…grosss…
and also…… every boob is just so dang sexy like i can’t see a mom giving an infant milk or my boner will rupture right through my chinos